I dare not brag about being an expert about Women, who am I? Only God can do that.
Who can understand women, when even women don't understand Women, but if we do take a closer look at this issue, some of the basics are not that hard to grasp.
I've listened to ladies complain about the Men in their lives, I've watched some of such relationships crumble, albeit sadly, and sometimes I think the average Man is still trying to figure out what women want, hence this post.
WHAT DO WOMEN WANT
- ATTENTION
PLENTY ATTENTION
It's why I'd advice, if you as a Man, you know you are busy,
Doctors, Pastors, Nurses etc, you're going to run into some issues or lose relationships if you're not wise and careful,
I remember when I was in a Relationship some years back, I had gone to visit her on a particular day, after spending like almost the whole day at her place, I stood up to go, Aunty locked the door oh, that where am I going to, that I have not spent enough time, I had to stay back obediently as an up coming husband material, before later she released me.
Yes, Attention, Women flourish on attention
Call her daily, call her for no reason, call her just to hear her voice,
Text her,
Visit her,
Take her out.
Sit down and gist with her
Play Ludo or scrabble with her.
Don't make her fight for your attention, other wise, you'll make her feel unloved, she'll begin to doubt your love, and you may end up losing her.
If you don't have time to give a woman attention, why ask her out?
(2) AFFECTION/INTIMACY
Study her and speak her love language
Let her see the affection even if she closed her eyes.
She craves your love, except it's your money she's after.
Every woman wants to be intimate with her, husband except she doesn't love him or she has given up on the Marriage,
Stop being unromantic, and spend some quality intimate moment with your Wife at home, just playing with her hair.
(3) YOUR LOVE VOCALIZED
If you are in a Relationship or Married, ask your wife or fiancee, if she'll ever get tired of hearing "I love you" from you,
You already know the answer.
I've asked before, them no dey tire.
Speak the Love daily let her hear it
Write it down as letters, let her read it.
"she already knows I love her" will not do."
(3) PAMPERING
Heck, Even me I love pampering, so what are we not saying.
A Woman wants to be spoilt, no matter her age
Pet her,
Be gentle with her. She's not a Man,
Be patient with her (especially when mood begins to swing)
Cuddle and pet your Wife like tata (little baby)
Spoil her with your money, as God has blessed you with
If I tell you these things are easy, I'll be lying. , it's not going to always be a stroll in the park, sometimes you won't be in the mood, it can become tiring at times, some women can make the job even more difficult, their attitude and all, but with God's love and God's help, and with your determination to make your Marriage work, it's possible.
(4) HONESTY AND OPENNESS
Most Men find it difficult to be honest and open with their feelings to their wives, unknown to them Women crave this more.
Most Men still try to be tough before their wives, try to put up a "Man of steel" display before their wives.
Sir, It's okay to be vulnerable, and emotional before her, she's your Wife or Wife to be,
A woman wants to know her husband's fears, his weakness, his greatest secrets, trust her with them, she wants him to be "naked to her and not ashamed", then she feels safe and free to reciprocate, trust him with her own secret and her everything, .
(5) FINANCIAL SUPPORT
You were thinking i wouldn't mention this?
No way.
Even if she were a millionaire, your money means more to her than hers.
Every Woman wants the financial support and backing of her husband or fiance, forget Ndi "feminists" oh.
As you spend on her, she feels loved and valued. She's not being materialistic, no, she's being a Woman.
Women naturally seek comfort, so seek to provide her that via your moneyyyyyyyy.
(6) COMMITMENT
Yes, Women desire commitment.
If they love you, they want to marry you.
If they marry you, they want children
They always seek deeper connections,
They want you to keep to your words, commit to your promises, be there for her, for the kids, do right by your family
Be Responsible...
(7) LEADERSHIP
No, she's not lost
No, she's not clueless or stupid
She can as well lead herself,
But when she decides to become your wife and accepts your being her head, she voluntarily allows you play that role.
So step up.
Spiritually and otherwise.
...............When you are constantly doing all these, her Submission will come naturally on auto pilot, she will happily follow your leadership, take your corrections, easily forgive your short comings, respect you, honor you, she will surrender everything about herself to you and do anything to make you happy,
Loving a Woman isn't as easy as it seems,
That's why you start learning by Loving her God.
I hope this helps somebody our there..