Time should have a positive processing effect on your relationships. When you get married, you should move from one level to another in your relationship. When Cain and Abel gave their offering to God, Abel's offering was accepted because the person of Abel, who had a relationship with God, had been accepted. By reason of his relationship with God, Abel knew God's favourite; when you know someone, you know his likes and dislikes.
If your relationship with God and with your spouse is deteriorating, something is wrong somewhere. The processing effect of time can be positive or negative, depending on where you are coming from. You need to service your relationship with God and with your spouse. If you don't service any relationship, it will naturally deteriorate.
God values your relationship with him above everything you can offer him. Your time is the most important thing that you spend with your family. If you don't spend time in God's presence, you can't be acquainted with him, his ways, likes and dislikes. As a man, your family needs your attention. The greatest thing a woman needs is her husband's attention.
Time must be positively utilized to obtain a positive processing effect. When we don't invest time in our relationship with God and with our spouses, we break divine order. People who put gifts before relationships are likely to over value their gifts. Jesus preferred Mary to Martha, because Mary chose to listen to him, while Martha was focused on giving him gifts. Invest time in your relationship with people.
When you spend time in God's presence, he will process your life. In matt.25:1-11, some virgins were called wise because they made extra investment in anticipation of the bridegroom. They valued their relationship with the bridegroom. Many people don't plan ahead for their relationship with their spouses.
In matt. 25:14-30, the servant who got one talent abused the relationship with his master, and called his name. You must learn to call God by his many wonderful names, as there are edifying names that you can call your spouse. Names have a way of intoxicating people. You should invest knowledge into your relationship with God by knowing many of his names and their meaning.
Let time be utilized positively to process your relationship with God, your spouse and your children. If you are not free with your children, you can't get the best out of them.
Thanks for reading through. Change begins with you and I.
