The brain is the real director of our sex life, the only real aphrodisiac, effective and totally natural, and these are seven simple ways to stimulate it
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- Do not overvalue the physical. Did you know that physical appearance, sex appeal or physical abilities are overrated by most people? They are not at all responsible for making us sexually attractive or for giving us pleasure ...
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- Understand the chemistry of attraction. When we are attracted to someone, the nervous system starts up and causes a discharge of phenylethylamine, a compound of the oxytocin family, which causes passion. This is responsible for the excitement, which causes dopamine, the neurotransmitter related to pleasure and reward, to be generated. So, working on emotional intelligence we can improve our sexuality.
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- Accept that there is room to improve your erotic intelligence. Harvard University professor Howard Gardner distinguished up to eight types of intelligence and threw away the theory that it is innate and immovable. Thus, erotic intelligence is not reserved for a few, everyone can empower it.
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- Remember that education is the pillar on which sexual intelligence is based. Did they tell you something about how your body works or what can you expect from it during a sexual relationship? If not, you will have to discover it on your own through books, toys, seminars -therapy if necessary- and the self-exploration of your body and its sexual responses.
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- Do not make an effort to be an Olympic lover. Error. A type of almost athletic and Olympic sex in which it seems that we have to become sexual athletes and that can become obsessed.
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- Say no to prejudice. As experts in sexual intelligence point out, sexual enjoyment has to do with getting to know oneself, not putting barriers, not having predetermined ideas, knowing how to let go and expanding our mental horizons regarding sex. You must be able to eradicate myths and taboos, to accept our sexuality as something natural that can always be improved and that is not limited to a purely genital act.
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- Speaking is understood by people. Another very important pillar is communication. That sex is a matter of two and we can talk freely with our partner or lover on the subject, treating it naturally and without setting goals or expectations that can defraud us.
