"Women have wonderful instincts about things, they can discover anything except the obvious", Oscar Wild.
After reading the book 10 Things every woman needs to know about men" I decided to do a quick review for others to have it simplified and perhaps inspire to actually read it.
True love comes quietly.
If you have to ask if he likes you - you already have your answer.
When you’re in the wrong relationship you’re stuck in your head, when you are in the right relationship you’re stuck in your heart.
I have personally discovered, the best way to have any guys heart is to be up for the job. Meaning take him your job of investing in your own relationship experience, communication skills and treat him like your favorite work in the world, pay off will be worth it! It doesn't mean you'll be happy, but it sure means the process will excite you and teach you a ton about relationships.
Genuine interest is my second best to go. I get truly curious about what is this man about at his core. What is meaningful to him? What are his goals? What inspires him what scares him? What he values and how he goes about achieving his goals and how he celebrates his life? What is he passionate about?
Personality attraction starts from quality questions. Appreciation of his shadows is the second best go.
Masks protect us from our vulnerability.
"You can’t make someone love you. You can only make yourself someone who can be loved", Derek Gamba.
When a guy likes you - it’s obvious.
Man crave appreciation.
Man need to feel like winners. Treat him like someone you want him to be.
Man are terrified of rejection.
Man want to give and make you happy.
“Love is that condition that happiness of another person equals your own.” Man want a woman who are happy to receive what he has to give. Inspire him to bring the best he has.Man are afraid of losing his freedom.
"Freedom is not the absence of commitments, but the ability to choose and commit to that which is best for me" - Paulo Coelho. The more you push the more he pulls away. You can only express an invitation for him to doing/being/experiencing things. Just know that you are always free to choose what’s best for you, and you aren’t responsible for my happiness. I am. My only request would be to be honest with me about your needs and wants.Man live in a moment. “When you love someone the best thing you can offer is your presence. How can you love if you aren’t there?” Your presence is the portal to loving yourself and he naturally becomes more invested into relationship.
Men communicate through action more than words.
If you give a guy what makes him want to commit - he will commit.
You let things happen with appreciation not expectations. Man is not the indicator of your worthiness. None of relationship is your measurement of worth except the relationship with yourself. Relationships aren’t a goal to achieve, it’s an experience to live. In the right relationship you never feel like you have to work for it to gain any sort of relief to breath again. Giving sharing and receiving the wholeness is the right type of relationship. The only thing you have to do is bring your best happy self to attract the man in alignment with you. How man commit - they perceive commitment not as a goal, but as a result that naturally happens. If it feels good when she is around then he’ll be drawn to her for more. He doesn’t choose to commit, it just happens through timing. When he feels like being with her is better than being single - that’s the point and his instinct clicks “This is it”. For a man it comes down to one question “Is my life better with her in it or without?” Drop your belief that you have to make him chase you, just be your authentic self and do you first.Man aren’t intentionally trying to hurt you. Stop associating your self worth with your relationships or amount of affection or chase or commitments men provide or do not provide for you. Guys really feel like women are fragile so most of the time they are simply afraid to hurt us that’s why they do not act on. Feelings aren’t facts.
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