Do you often feel life is too empty and meaningless? This is the Cause and How to Overcome It.
Empty is a mood that is not complete so that while living and enjoying everything still feels something is missing. People often liken this to a puzzle that is missing one cubic, so even though the other parts look good, the void on this side makes it feel incomplete.
Have you ever felt a situation where life feels meaningless? we feel life as if without direction and purpose. We also feel that life has no meaning. Not happy, but also not sad. Even sometimes confused about yourself.
There must be days where you just want to give up, where it feels like you just want to hide behind a blanket and never come out. There must be days where it feels like the sky isn't blue, but it's just gray. Indeed, sometimes there are times when we feel that nothing is right in our lives, it feels like it's all in vain, and when will come a better day than this.
The factor that causes your heart to become empty
The only need that can make us feel whole and full again is love. Therefore, the only reason we feel empty and empty is the lack of love and love in our lives. But it is not a lack of love from others that makes us feel empty. However, the emptiness comes from us who do not love ourselves. When we judge ourselves, reject our feelings, let our emotions get out of hand, blame ourselves and others for our situation, we will surely feel empty as if life is meaningless.
Basically there are many things that are the factors that cause voidness (emptiness) in the heart. Usually the main factor (primary) comes from within ourselves. The second (secondary) factor that influences it is everyday attitudes which consist of words and behavior. Whereas the last one is tertiary factor which is something that comes from outside this self. That could be because of information or attitudes of others towards this self.
Here are some reasons that might be the reason why the heart becomes empty:
- Loss of Life Purpose
When you have lost your purpose in life, the days that you pass will feel very heavy. There is no enthusiasm to go through the days as usual. Don't know which direction you want to go. And you feel confused by yourself. As if getting lost, you feel that all the paths you are taking are dead-end. When other people are happy, all you can do is lament your loneliness in a lost state. - Trapped in the Past
Instead of enjoying and grateful for everything that is currently, you are trapped in the past. You still have trouble moving on from various injuries that occurred in the past. So that going to step forward feels very heavy because there is a chain of burden that clings to your feet. - Too Self Closing
Without realizing it, you build a wall for yourself. You close yourself and don't allow yourself to accept happiness from others. All your problems are self-evident. You feel like you are the one who suffers the most because there is nothing that can be relied on or asked for help. - Reluctant to Try New Things
You are stuck in a comfort zone. Reluctant to try new things. Even trying new experiences is not fun. So there are no new challenges and opportunities that can make you feel happier. - There is Rejection
Very often because of this, we feel unwanted by individuals or groups. Feeling useless, feeling unnecessary, to feel unloved and so on. People who feel lonely because of this, often feel desperate especially if the rejection of the same thing often happens. Wrong decisions can occur and ultimately make life feel more empty and lonely. - Feeling lost
Because we have lost something that we used to have or experienced. It's also about change but it's about something missing. Losing freedom can make us lonely. Losing a person who previously gave us certain habits, must feel lonely. This can clearly be felt when experiencing separation / divorce. - Excessive Obsession
Because of excessive obsession with People / things that are hard to have but really want to have. So that only focus on pursuing / fighting for one person / thing and feel there is no other choice. As if only one was the main goal. For others there is no desire or even the slightest thought. Imposing yourself to try others will not be able to. This can involve a spouse or job. Generally, feeling lonely about this, has a big bad impact. Not a few cases of suicide because of the cause of this one. Minimal stress because desire is not fulfilled.
What is the best way out when we feel loneliness and emptiness?
The way that can be done to overcome loneliness and emptiness is to tell the right person. Looking for people who can be trusted and of course want to be listeners for each of our problems. Get closer to the person to get comfort. Unfortunately looking for someone like this is difficult, it takes people who are truly sincere. So it's better to immediately submit to a psychologist. Or you can also get closer and share with the Almighty.
Try to pay more attention to others. Can give more than we should receive. Starting it from the closest people to the people who have further relationships. Over time we will feel the benefits. Their response to that is certainly good and some of them, certainly can provide comfort and that's when we will slowly get out of the emptiness and feeling of loneliness that we have felt so far.
Love and accept yourself as you are. Soak up yourself with love that has actually been given by God to every human being.
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Regard,
@tjoet