Do you dislike getting things done, working out, dislike waking up on time, like staying in bed longer than usual, defer or pass responsibility to others. lack a proper schedule, dislike cleaning both your body and your living space, keep postponing the work you have to do and often question yourself, "why do I keep procrastinating?" bullshit yourself when you have to work that you will do it in the last hours. Lie to yourself that from tomorrow, I will start waking up early and work, make plans on paper, but never follow through. Always say that I will start from the first of this month and repeat the same habits. Stay in the same spot for hours and hate getting up, live in an unclean environment or rely on others for cleaning and stay unclean yourself. Do you start working only when the deadline is over your head?
If any of these habits sound familiar, then you are a slob, stop being proud. These are patterns of a loser and that's what you will be if you continue on this path.
Why is a person lazy?
- Because we are happy with dreaming. We want to make billions, date movie stars, purchase expensive yachts, private jets, flashy cars, own mansions, beach houses, pent house suites and at the same time, fold your hands, cross your legs and do nothing about your wishes. That is the height of fantasy; to not want to do anything and have everything.
We hate work, just the idea of work makes us start throwing fits and building plans on how to avoid it.
When we were kids, we hated waking up early, going to school, doing homework, studying but we were forced to do all these by our parents. Under their supervision, these habits are installed in our brains.Technology; personalised or home technology, itself is created to make you lazy. It's purpose after all is to reduce all hard work and get you things faster, easier and with minimal involvement. You just have to sit at one place and it will be done for you. You can buy food, clothes, groceries, medicine, liquor, porn, films, TV shows, secure tickets, cabs, cars, meetings, sign agreements, talk to anyone from any place in the world visually, verbally, textually, all in just one place. How is this not making you more lazy?
And they will keep making more things easier for us because they know we will buy it. They know we will keep buying these things until one day we literally don't have to move a muscle.
Do all these things make us permanently lazy? No, because you still love playing sports, hanging out, partying, going to clubs, pubs, your friends'houses,vacations, on dates, shopping, to malls, and do all sorts of things in the name of fun.
Your laziness is selective, it's prejudiced, it's only focused on certain aspects of your life, which honestly you find boring. You hate studying, working, learning, researching, and love doing everything that is fun. It's about inclination.
Laziness, by that definition, isn't a disorder, it's not something you are suffering from, laziness is an excuse. The truth is, you want to be successful, but you don't want to work for it. If a dog chases you, lazy or not lazy, you run your ass off. Why? Because walking lazily in that case is not a choice.
Guys, when a girl calls you over and says, "there's nobody home, " you don't stay in the same spot, you get up, take a shower and make a run to her place.
Laziness, again, disappears. Why? This time, it's for fun.
Those who are single, if you get in a relationship with the girl you like, wouldn't you go on every single date or take any opportunity to meet her?
Don't bullshit yourself, you are only lazy when it's convenient. It's a personal choice based on the freedom you have. For example, when your boss orders you to finish and submit some work in five hours, you don't have the convenience, so you do that work or else you will get fired. Similarly, you study on the last day of your exam because you have run out of time. Now you have no choice or you will fail.
So when you are not given a choice, you aren't lazy anymore. But when you're on your own, you find it convenient to destroy your own life. Technically, you aren't lazy, because you work under someone's supervision and pressure but when it comes to things where you are in charge, which is your life, you don't care.
You, despite what you say, don't want to be successful in reality, because those who do are working their asses off. Say it honestly, I want to destroy my life, because if I can work hard to get laid, maintain relationships, hang out with my boys, party, actively be a part of a social life, go out in groups with friends, play online games withoutend, and the only things I'm avoiding are somehow work based, then I am a liar.
So here's the truth: most of us are lazy because we haven't yet taken full control of our lives. We're still unconsciously waiting for some kind of authority, supervision, guidance manual to make us do things, not realizing that we have moved past that phase, and it's not going to happen.
Rule 1: Accept the control of your life, you're on your own.
Your parents now are your well wishers and your friends see you as a unit of fun, they have no interest or investment in your success. They don't care, they will be sad for a second if you fail, but they will most certainly move on. So right now, your life is in your hands only, you are its master.
Step 2: Remember what your parents had to do to get you where you are right now
Even then you didn't want to study, wanted to sleep, and only to have fun, but they pushed you. So now, in their absence, since you are master, you will have to push yourself. The responsibility is now yours. Get yourself out of bed, scream on yourself if you're wasting time, punish yourself by grounding yourself if you have to. If you have plans for the evening, but didn't study, work, or do whatever you were meant to, then drop the evening plans. Discipline yourself. Laziness is a choice, you're choosing not to work. And by making that choice, you're going against your personal evolution.
Step 3: Understand why you procrastinate
Whenever you have some work to do, you push it forward by bullshitting yourself that you're going to start in 15 minutes. Meanwhile, in those 15 minutes, you might text, check out pics, or check out online content. And we come back to technology. You are surrounded by millions of options, choices and sources which are pushing their content on you, addictive, great, interesting content and their goal is your permanent subscription, to get you hooked on it, which is a language used to describe addiction. You hate working, and on the other hand, you have hours and hours of content that you love. It's obvious what you are going to choose. Now they are doing their work amazingly, because it's their job but because of them, you are fucking up your work and your life and still, the blame falls on your head. You are the one who has to manage the content and time. The truth is, the only thing we are consistently good at is lying to ourselves. We give ourselves 15 minutes of break; that's a lie. I will only watch this video; lie. I am not addicted to my phone; lie. I will do it tomorrow, in the last three days, or after three months but once I start, I will just lock myself up and work for 10-13 hours a day; lie.
What will you gain from lying to yourself?
What will you say to a person who is training for some sporting event, and they tell you that in the entire year, I'm going to start practicing in the last three days, or the last month for 18 hours and win the gold medal. You will tell them, it's bullshit and training doesn't work that way. Then, why are you bullshitting yourselves the same way? Because you are in charge of your life? This only proves that you don't value yourself at all, that you actually see yourself as a loser.
Start now, understand the value of time or somebody else will replace you in seconds because they weren't bullshitting themselves.
Blog editor: @klynic