Love is a decision, do it deliberately!
I have come to realize something deep, and now am so scared and I have so many wishes I wish I didn't have.
Sometimes we did need some good thinking to decide at some point in our lives and it really not all about how we feel but how true what we feel really is. And I did wish I had better time to think and not feel, I did take a better decision.
what am saying is love isn't feeling for someone but a conscious decision you need to take.
To love someone is a deliberate act, you don't imagine it or do it in a haste. You need to take your time to think.
What are the reasons for love?
Don't love because you are lonely and need someone
Don't love because you have set a timing that you hope to achieve.
Don't love because you thought it was appropriate at
that time to love.
You need to think through it! Questions like
Do I really love him?
Can I live with him?
Do I like thevway he thinks?
Do I see any deception in it?
Am I too emotional about him?
Am I ready for this?
You know most often we mistake emotions for love! But sometimes, I don't even feel that emotions! But love is not cloud! It is meant to live on even when feelings fail, emotions cease and all the pleasures are gone!
I use to love him, I thought I love him, I allowed him come home, took him home but when I began to see life from the brighter/bigger view, I lost the feelings, the emotions, the pleasures. I don't even need them, he thinks the way I don't want, talks the way I don't want, I feel he isn't really what I wanted.
In fact, a time came, I thought he tricked me! Because he wasn't what I wanted! I felt he manipulated me into loving him. I feel I didn't naturally loved him.
The love I once felt varnished away because love wasn't a feeling. Love was more than emotions. What I should feel is no longer there! Now all I have left for him is pity, but I can't marry him because of pity! How long will I do that?
This is the lamentation of a lady I met.
And I need to share this, don't love because you have to, love because you decided to and know that the world has a lot on display, don't be too in a haste to make a rash choice because you may neglect the previous choice which may in turn map up your cup of wishes, wishes that you may not like to wish
Love is what the world is all about today
Our hearts all need love