Hello to everyone!!! : )
Soo today is Monday. It means that today I write an article about "man and woman".
Even at the university, I notice that very often my opinion about somethings absolutely does not coincide with the opinion of people around. And at some point I came to the conclusion that let it differ further. I very often did not voice my thoughts. But at one point I decided that if my thoughts were different, then I needed to told about that! Perhaps I can show something new to people around me. And do you know what happened? At the first attempt to express my opinion, I had a terrible quarrel with the girl. I cannot say that I quarreled with her. It was not importent for me. But she got angry and called me mercantile, and after that she left the room, slamming the door.
But oh well, people and situations are different, this is the beauty of life.
I had a desire to return to the comfortable zone in which I stayed before this event. But it did not work out. Now I would say that it does not matter what other people think of me. Nice if I can show something new for people around me. For this I write these articles. But I do not need to take over those labels that other people hang on me.
Simply for the reason that we see in others only what we have. By the way, my teacher adheres to an interesting principle. My teacher is a great woman. And when she is told any compliment, she mentally says the phrase: "This is not about me". The same phrase she says when someone tell her something grosse. When I found out about it, I was so surprised. In my head a thought flashed through: "How is it possible? The compiments is soo nice!" I really like to get some compiments from people. But I get that she don't project the thoughts of other people on herself.
It was a small digression from the topic. And I tell you this situation from my life in order to start a topic, about which I want to speak now. I want to talk about situations where men pay for women in restaurants.
In general, from myself I can say that I had only a few situations when I paid for myself. I believe that a man pays for woman. This is my principle. And no, it's not that I want to get from a man more than I give him, as say a girl from my story.
Firstly, I believe that a man and a woman are not equal. Not because someone is better, but someone is worse. Not because someone is stronger, but someone is weaker. No. Just a man and a woman are different. All. And I do not understand when women start competing with men. I do not understand, but I accept. I believe that we cannot give each other an equal amount of something.
In a relationship, the woman is responsible for certain spheres, and the man for others. Just because many are so comfortable. I am comfortable responsible for the atmosphere in the relationship. I'm not comfortable paying for a huge and strong man in a restaurant.
I believe that when a man proposes to pay an account, he takes care of a woman. After all, how else can he show the woman that she like her? Especially if this is the second meeting and people are familiar for two weeks. That's how they care. I remember when I was a little girl, I read a phrase that I will remember for life. It sounded like this: "A man will never stay in your bed when you get sick. But he focus do you gave necessary medicines and you do not need anything."
Just a woman with pleasure will sit by the bed on which the beloved lies.
And many simply do not understand that a man in this way shows his concern. I just meet a huge number of women who feel guilty if a man pay for them.
I have a friend from Egypt. He told me an interesting story. He met with a woman who was from Poland. Over time, she moved to live in Egypt. And he told me how she would not let him pay utility bills, how she wanted to share it with him. At the same time, he told me his feelings. In his male world, it sounded like this: "I do not trust you. You cannot take care of me. "
Although we must remember that situations are different. I'll talk about them next Monday.