Inconveniencing other people makes me sick to my stomach

The last time I used all of my power as a result of lack of electricity, I wanted to pay the fare to my former area to pay and charge. Over there, we had one man that ran a charging plant. All you have to do is offer your phone and charger and he will do the rest. He will give you a number tag so you can retrieve your devices when you return. A stipulated amount is paid before you get your devices.

This new area that I recently relocated to does not seem to have a place that runs charging ports. I don't know if they do because I haven't seen one nor have I asked around. The truth is this is a somewhat rich zone. Where there are lots of families trying to outdo one another. So everyone has their generators or solar. And at every given point, they power it on.

I have been here for a while and my landlady puts on the generator every single time there is no light and it's almost becoming annoying.. lol. There are three different people though who power their generators. My neighbor, my landlady, and a compound directly opposite me. When all three do this, I am the one who suffers from the noise. This is because I am in the middle and their generators' positioning leaves me completely surrounded. So I wake up most time with headaches or live through the entire day with headaches as a result.

On that day when all hope of power was lost, I forgot my landlady will power on her generator as usual and all I needed to do was to knock and ask for help.
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Nope. I did not forget. I just didn't want to bother her. If not, my power bank or phone wouldn't have gotten that low. Since she does it every day and almost at all times. It means throughout the three to four days we had no power, she ran her generator throughout the day and even in the night. I should have at least charged my power bank the previous night when it was almost down..... But I did not want to bother them.

Even when my girlfriend had visited to see my new apartment in the early days, she pointed out I wouldn't need to pay and charge my devices anymore as was the case in my former area. What she did not know was that I had made a mental note to not even try that after she said it.... Hehehehe

One of those days, I decided to use my free time to go and visit my friend. I literally had nothing else to do so I played catch up with my girlfriend and the rest of the days I visited people I had known in the past and caught up with them.

That was the day I finally decided and muster up the courage to hand my power bank to one of my landlady's daughters to help me charge. I had a good feeling I'll have some amount of power by the time I got back. And I did. But the funniest thing is that when I returned our power source had been restored. This means if I was adamant enough I could have still not shown my foot on her doorstep to charge. I didn't want to take chances since I needed to publish the next day and I could have probably died of boredom without my phone to read stuff on Hive.

It's difficult for me to ask for help... And it's really becoming ... I don't know what to say.

I am not sure if this is something I should try to change. But I know that if I did ask for help more, my path would be less tedious and less stressful. I know I would receive lots of them because I render as much help as I can to a lot of people. Most time even it inconveniences me.

Apart from the fact that I offer more help than I ask to be offered, I have an aura that draws people to me. I tend to get liked in an instant after a few interactions or two. I don't know if I should ask for help more but my ego just wouldn't let me. I often do not want to spoil or bring friction to the relationship that I had created between these people and I

So the "one thing" I could do in my life, that would make every aspect, everything else, simpler would be asking for help here and there. It would definitely make me accomplish certain goals faster but pride is the reason I am stuck with most of the things I am stuck with. Or maybe it's because I don't like the feeling in my stomach that comes with inconveniencing or bothering other people. All I know is it takes a whole lot of courage for me to ask for help. Sometimes, it's always my last resort.

What do you think?

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