It's another #weekend-engagement initiatives by @galenkp and his team, kudos to you guys for the good work every weekend. My entry for this weekend engagement will focus on:
Option one: Best friend:
Tell us about your best friend. How and where you met, how or why you become such good friends and why your friendship endures. Also tell us a story about one your best moments spent with that best friend.
I chose this topic because I've learnt that communication bridges the gap between hatred and love 💕💕💕, enemies and friends. Once you start communicating with someone that you hate or an enemy there's a tendency that you'll end up as friends. This is my story of how my one time enemy became my wife and my best friend. It's your friend @inspiredbyhive, greetings from this part of the world.
I'm still surprised how I got married to someone I once hated and tagged as an enemy. It just done on me enmity is actually a state of mind as well as friendship. What this means is that once your mind state changing towards an individual be it a male or female it's either you're becoming a friend or an enemy to that person. My story will teach us that there's no permanent friend and there's no permanent enemy as far as life is concerned. Let's look at how it began.
The Beginning
We all grew up in the same neighborhood and our parents were friends based on the fact that we attended the same church. I dislike her because she feels they were richer than my parents and she'll say it in front of me. Whenever she mocked my parents I'll always get furious but I'll just overlook her. This gradually made me to hate her and tagged her as an enemy. Although, our parents were still friends, but to me she was my enemy.
This wasn't the only reason for me hating her or called her my enemy. At some point she was close to my childhood girlfriend and whenever I wrote a letter to my girlfriend, she intercepted the letter and advised my girlfriend not to care about that poor man's child. Of course I knew that my dad wasn't that rich but we were living an average life, but telling to my face and also relating it to my girlfriend made me to hate her the more.
As time went on, I was told that they've transferred my girlfriends dad to Lagos state from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, Nigeria. I felt so emotionally disturbed because this is the girl I've loved for the past 5 years as an adolescent. The major challenge was that neither of us had a mobile phone to continue the communication. After my girlfriend left Port Harcourt, my enemy also felt lonely and wanted to come closer to me but all she had done in the past was the barrier. If I should say the truth, she's a very beautiful girl and attractive.
Stocked in the Middle
They said that a triangle is formed where two lines meet. This is the same with love and friendship. One day, I was placed to head a committee in church and my so called enemy was made the secretary. Immediately I heard her name from the pastors mouth, I became angry and wanted to reject the position after the church service. During the service my close friend asked me what the problem is and I told him everything and I just told me it's just a committee and not marriage.
I went into the committee with an intention of just concentrating on my job description, but as we started communicating, I noticed that she's a nice person and had changed from that childish character.
Everybody say suddenly, suddenly I saw that she was lovable and could make a good wife plus the aesthetical incentives in her beauty, so I decided to make her my wife and the end of the story is that today we're married for about 3 years with two kids.
Finally, my wife is my best friend today and well always be. Love truly is a healer of dip wounds caused by hatred and friendship can be amended through constant communication. Have you tried using the communication tool to heal your friendship that has been destroyed by lack of trust. That's my story, I don't know about yours if it was similar as mine.