I share this lesson in this post because I learned it firsthand. In the past I used to say, for example, "it is preferable that I hit you (slap) than tell you four things (strong verb)". And well, I have had to restructure little by little this verbal abuse for valuable relationships that I lost because of the harshness of my verb.

After learning how to do my fasting of bad words, complaints, ranting, and unnecessary criticism, I added many activities to let go, and drain the pent-up anger, and I started practicing boxing, although morning yoga has softened me up too much because, in today's practice, I came in second to last (laughs). I'm back! I think I was born for it (Cardio Boxing), yet another tool to cultivate my health as part of the co-creation process for my life.

Learning to box, doesn't save me ... but it does activate the alert button in my brain. Because it is precisely about perceiving, protecting, and avoiding. Knowing how to defend myself, changes my attitude, and I manifest another energy. And, as the saying goes, as they see you, as they perceive you, they treat you.

It is often the case that we believe we always have to fit in or be accepted, and the verbal decree can slowly drill into relationships, hearts, and brains. From the phrases "this boy is driving me crazy" to "here I am" and giving power to the "NO", things start to happen.

I often tell my daughter "What comes out of the mouth is not returned" and you have to be very careful what you say, because the person who says it forgets it, but the aggrieved person does not forget it, and the words often hurt more than a blow because the brain constantly remembers them.

The tongue is a very strong muscle, without bones, but it is so energetic that it breaks hearts or can glue the broken pieces without being glue, it all depends on how we use it. And the fact is that when the tongue (the strong verb) is used to hurt, it is hardly forgotten.

Unfortunately, it is a learned behavior of many, the unhealthy commentary of one and the other... It has become a bad cultural habit (habit) 👎🏻 because there are people with an excess of inaction or lack of values to win things in a good fight (combat) and they have to fall into the lowest, destroy with the tongue. So if you want to shine like the great Hollywood stars... You don't need to turn off, nor run over with the harshness of the verb (words) to others.

The word is stronger than a slap, a blow has the power to bless or curse, and many people tend to act rather than think and be cautious when releasing expletives, I call this type of person "hot head". Let's try to speak positively. Check first the action before seeing the same reaction in the other... and that's when the fists come. Be careful what you say and what you don't say.

A place in these times when we feel we are swimming like dolphins in a sea of sharks!

Certainly, no one should have (or we should not give the power to someone) to be an obstacle in your development, your evolution, but this does not mean that you are going to build your platform of success by crumbling others. Respecting others, their trajectory, their history, and their constancy already make us great.

It tarnishes the emotional prestige too much, to sell your work by badmouthing someone else's. It's as simple as that. Sooner or later, the art of left-side tripping (verbal abuse) will boomerang back at you and hit you hard.

Be patient. Prestige and trust take time. And this has nothing to do with the followers you have. Recognize your limits. That "to everything they ask you say that you do or know how to do... that lie no longer works, only the truth will set us free". In the Lord's vineyard, there is something for everyone. When you miss an opportunity, analyze yourself...Without civility, there is no modernity!.

The sun rises through the clouds

It often happens with cloudy days, that we believe that we always have to fit in with the rest to fit in or be accepted, we must not forget that even if the sun hides, we have a bright, radiant sun that encourages us inside at the right time.

When I need to read or listen to something edifying or that moves me, definitely my other self uses different means to speak to me with the sweet verb, and more emotional intelligence to remind me that my wounds should not divert me from my life mission "what endures persists".