Hello friends, Happy weekend. I hope you are enjoying your weekend. We end this week with the last edition of @hivelearners prompt.
I don't blame most people when they don't trust people or become wicked most times it was because of what they have experienced in the past that made them turn that way. A friend told me about her current issue with a very close friend of hers which happened recently. I wasn't surprised because I have had the same experience but in a different way.
Just imagine a friend comes to you crying that she is in need of money, knowing that you don't have it, you have to even borrow from people just to help that your friend and it turns out that the day she said she will pay you asked her about the money and she started raining insults on you telling you it is because of that little money you're disturbing her?
Many people are just ungrateful. You will go as far as helping them and they won't give you the same energy when it is their turn.
I had my own bad experience with a very close friend of mine. This friend was like a sister to me. I was really in pain.
It was during the COVID-19 period when it was earlier . I just thought it was a normal pandemic and we won't stay long because that has never happened before so I didn't bother taking my school documents home.
One day my friend called me saying that there's a scholarship slot he got and he needs me to apply. I was sure to get the scholarship if I applied through him. He asked for my documents and I told him I left it in school. He asked me to travel back to school to get it but then the deadline was already the next day. So I asked him if I could give someone else the slot since this was unexpected. He asked me if I was sure about that and the money annually was worth about $400 which is 300k. She was schooling in Port Harcourt and was going from home so she had all her documents with her.
I called her and told her. I even sent his number to her for easy communication and she got the scholarship. When she got the scholarship she didn't even let me know about it and then the first payment came. She didn't come to me to tell me to appreciate me or even hear anything. I heard that she was paid the scholarship money from her friend. I felt very bad, I gave you a huge opportunity that comes only once and this is what I get. It was as if I gave her my life.
Normally an appreciative person should come to tell me not me hearing it from someone else. Will I take the scholarship or take the money from her?. No, I had no plans of doing that because she was my friend and that's the least I would do. When I heard it from her friend I was in pain and approached her. Her reply was that she thought I already knew. How will I know, am I a spirit?
So because I didn't have an agreement with you that we will divide the money when it comes.
Well that experience changed my mindset very well. I learnt never to expect anything from anyone. That didn't stop me from being a good person but I learnt people change and especially when it comes to financial matters , it can destroy friendships that have lasted for a long time.
We aren't that close again as before the incident happened and I regret even helping her in the other way round. I had to know the real her and learnt lessons the hard way.
Thank you for reading