Life is too short to allow people to push you from pillar to post or let people tell you how to live your life as if their life is perfect.
When these things are happening, they won't see anything wrong with it. In the end, they will still ask you, who forced you? Don't you have a mind of your own? I live by a few rules or codes in this life, which were instilled in me by my grandma and mother. It has helped me to thrive in whatever I am doing in this life; it has also boosted my confidence and increased my self-esteem; some people see it as pride, but I don't care.
One of the codes that has helped me go far in life is contentment. I am so content with whatever little things that I can afford for myself; it makes people see me as if I am rich.
I have everything I wanted as a child, but my mom, being a strict person, won't allow us to get it all. She will say manage this; what if it's not available? Will you thief?
My grandma and mother are the queens of discipline. I learned another thing: I hardly keep malice because I was taught when to draw the line.
If you are my friend, the moment I notice some kind of behavior that will cause us to quarrel, and I try talking to you about it, and you try to escalate it.
I will just apologize to you, but I will gradually stay away from you. That way, we can still greet, but that closeness won't be there anymore.
I don't like giving or borrowing people, what I will later start regretting, I won't give it to you. If you ask me for money, let's say it is 10 thousand. I will give you 3 or 5 thousand; in case you refuse to pay or you can't pay, I can let it go.
I remember when a friend called me to say that he needed 30k urgently, please I should help him that he will give it back to me the next week.
I told him I didn't have any, and he pleaded and pleaded; I told him to ask others of his friends. He said that he has but they don't have. I tried doing a transfer, but it refused to go.
If I had known, I could have let it be; he begged me to withdraw it, I had to meet him, where he and environmental people were having issues, and I gave him the money to settle.
It's been two years and 5 months now, and he has refused to pay me back. He has a business and still works in a private clinic. He will always tell me that the federal government still owes.
That was the first time I compromised, and since then, I have never tried it again.
So with all this, I don't have unnecessary issues with anybody, be it my neighbors, friends, church members, colleagues even family members.
These rules or codes have helped me to navigate life problems and issues.
Thank you besties for taking the time to read