Hello beautiful people belonging to the #HolusAndLotus community. I know I have been invited to a few initiatives here but the truth is that I had abandoned you. However, today I am taking some time with you to talk a little bit about a topic that I find quite interesting and controversial.

  It is about Loneliness. A 4 syllable word can have such a negative or in many cases also positive weight in certain people. Let's talk a little bit about it, shall we?

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  I know many people (myself included) who are afraid of loneliness, even living alone, without a partner, children, or anyone. Alone completely and this is valid. It seems to me that when people come to have this level of fear of loneliness, it is mostly due to the influence of a very ingrained and imposing upbringing, where it was made very clear that the fact of not wanting to have a partner or children was wrong.

  That is to say, our upbringing from an early age influenced us so much to instill in us the idea, like an implanted chip, that forming a couple, getting married at a certain age, and having your own family was the only thing in life that would make you happy no matter what. To reach this goal was to achieve a purpose of existence on this plane that has no resemblance to anything else. It is like discovering the Ark of the Covenant and having full happiness day after day infinitely for having a husband or wife and children.

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  But what if I tell you that this was never true, that there is a side of the coin that we were never allowed to see? That side that not everyone who comes into this world is meant to have a family of their own, that not everyone wants to have children or should have them because they know that if they do they will not be good parents.

  What if I told you that there are more married people with families who feel more lonely in company than in solitude? People who are with someone more out of compromise or out of habit than because they want to be, and feel safe in complete safety on more than one occasion by entering the environment of loneliness?

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  Situations like this are the ones that are usually seen every day although it is not made public. Many people feel lonely in this world when they are in the company of someone. And they prefer to continue to be in that suffering than to give themselves a break of freedom with some time alone. All because of the fear of being completely alone.

  This is what I want to get to with today's post: Why do people stigmatize this word so much? Why do they fear it? If loneliness brings so many positive things, one of them being the reason that seems to me the most important of all, and that is that it allows us to learn to know ourselves independently, without judgment or criticism, or impositions of having to fulfill something to be accepted, it simply allows you to be who you are, to the point of really accepting yourself, with all your flaws.

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  It also allows you to open the eyes of your conscience, imagining how you would be in the future with children, would you have enough patience to raise them, how would you act with your partner in difficult situations, would you be faithful, would you be unfaithful, would you have children out of wedlock because you let yourself go by instinct at some point, would you have children out of wedlock because you let yourself go by instinct at some point?

  I think that society should focus more on educating children and people to form their criteria, to give them time to know themselves, to live each stage of their lives in their own time and proportion. Without imposing goals that in the long run are ridiculous to achieve, such as having a family of their own at the age of 25 with 3 children and a house of their own.

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  If you don't do it in that period you will die alone and you will even end up wearing saints as a Shakira song says. And if that happens, why should it be so bad? I don't see loneliness like that anymore. She has many contrasts. In the beginning, they look dark and gloomy yes, but once you discover the freedom you have in it you get to feel so comfortable with yourself that you prefer to continue alone until someone comes along who is worth it and wants to experience the same with you (at the same level always) without demands or reproaches.

  And that's the conclusion I want to come to. If you experience loneliness in its fullness, there comes a point in your life that allows you to look for someone else to share your life with not out of necessity, but because you want to and that's a beautiful thing.

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  I have experienced loneliness in its maximum expression. Not everything has been nice, not everything with it has been healthy but I have been forced to continue alone in this life because I have realized that I still need to work on a few aspects of myself. And like many of you, I have gone through the lonely roads of feeling very lonely while being accompanied. For me, that loneliness is the worst that exists and the most dangerous.

  So don't be afraid to follow the tumultuous paths that solitude offers. If you truly believe and feel that it is the best for you, then let that be your right and respect it, embrace it, and experience it without remorse. I assure you that you will not regret it.

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  Hola gente linda perteneciente a la comunidad de #HolusAndLotus. Sé que me han hecho la invitación a unas cuantas iniciativas aquí pero la verdad es que los tenía abandonados. Sin embargo, hoy retomo un tiempito con ustedes para hablarles un poco sobre un tema que me resulta bastante interesante y controversial.

  Se trata sobre La Soledad. Una palabra de 3 sílabas que puede llegar a tener un peso tan negativo o en muchos casos también positivo en ciertas personas. Hablemos un poco acerca de eso, ¿te parece?