Hello friends of this community; You often feel like you can't achieve your goals, you feel like you're the type of person who always gives up, who starts but stops halfway, and that your emotions affect you, influencing your discipline, your perseverance, and your focus. , this post is especially for you.

Sometimes we simply cannot identify what is happening in our mind, and what kind of emotions are driving us crazy, making us often want to give up or act rashly, so let's develop this thinking and learn to have better control of our emotions.

So that you understand I have an example, it may seem simple, but it is didactic and practical and I promise that you will understand my reflection as I share this example with you, do not be disappointed, it is nothing extraordinary either, but this reasoning will help you; For many years I suffered from an eating disorder and for those who suffer from eating disorders, you already know how hard it is to control, especially your mind and it is sad, it is quite sad and exhausting.

One Friday night, very focused on maintaining my discipline, my physical shape, on following a diet, exercising every day, really very committed to my health and my body, however, I came from let's say very chaotic periods in which I I was easily distracted and sometimes eating fast food, without control, and it came on Friday night and after training I got very hungry and my only desire was to simply go to McDonald's or some fast food restaurant and order a good hamburger.

So that moment was definitely not under my control, my instincts, my emotions were in full swing, I started to realize that when you are in that state, you start thinking about a lot of things to satisfy your momentary desires and your needs and the worst. is that most of the time thoughts come to you that take you away from your goals and your focus.

So if my focus at that moment was to train, follow a diet and stop spending money on fast food, in restaurants, my mind and my emotions were completely altered, I was tired because it was a Friday night because I was hungry and all that made me my emotions were on the surface, as a result many thoughts and many justifications and excuses arose that automatically distanced me from my goal and simply wanted to satisfy my momentary desire.

I am sure that you have experienced something similar in your life, at some point and it is in those simple moments where you can identify if you are listening to your emotional voice or your rational voice, so as not to lose your way and not be completely dominated by your emotions, You must first identify them, identify when it happens in these moments, when your emotions or something external takes you off your normal path and then you can begin to listen to that voice that pulls you in another direction, for example, you could be focused on preparing a professional project, However, you feel lazy because it's Friday night and you start looking for all kinds of excuses to procrastinate, like watching a Netflix series, getting lost in Tiktok videos.

So it is very important to learn to identify this internal voice, that feeling or that sensation that tells you that something is not right and that you need to understand it to refocus on your goal, and once identified you can learn to reduce this emotion, when I say reduce I mean calm down, turn down the volume and this is just different than ignoring it or pretending the emotion doesn't exist so if you pay attention and understand this game we're talking about.

This reflection will help you a lot to take control of something fundamental to maintain your focus, your discipline, perseverance and avoid procrastination. You must understand that it is not about ignoring your feelings and emotions but rather about identifying them and analyzing yourself. of recognizing that something is happening and saying, “Hey I have an emotion Here, okay, okay, I need to calm down to get back on my path.”

You must even find tools to negotiate with yourself and be able to accept the emotion, to express it, appropriately and without making impulsive decisions.

Going back to my example, when I left the gym Friday night, when I left very hungry and wanted to devour a hamburger, something that was totally out of my focus, what I did was identify that I was emotionally upset and very hungry; So I stopped for a moment to reflect and said “I'm going home”, I'm going to calm down.

When you identify these moments and when you find appropriate tools you make much better decisions that satisfy those momentary needs and lower the volume of your emotions and this helps you have greater emotional control and greater resilience, at the moment I ate that healthy dish, Full of nutrients, the need for hunger and raw emotions began to diminish.