This is what I kept on emphasizing to my Big sis once she brings up family matters while chatting. She would explain how grandma and dad would keep requesting for money that there is no food.
My sister had just started working and in a few months, they have started putting responsibilities on her and added to it, are her siblings which are the most for her.
She once told me to finish school on time so I can join her too, which I would laugh at and be like; "Is this how adult life is?" "Can I just go back to being that little child who has always depended on adults for survival?"
No, I am not ready.... I would scream at myself but you can't escape from it. Would you? 😅😅
I am the second born out of five children. My immediate younger sister is a Corper serving in the East and she would also lament how she isn't ready for any responsibility as an adult. Who then is ready? 😅
My parents were the authoritative ones who love responding to our needs, especially the emotional part. They would provide everything we needed, but they expected high standards from us.
They would set limits and enforce boundaries and expect us to comply with whatever they say.
My parents were always strict and would give the instruction not to go out at a particular time, not to talk to any guy or even have friends. I only have a friend right from childhood and we grew up together.
They would lock us up inside and wouldn't allow us to go outside to play with others. Many times, I have wished to gain my freedom and would always imagine different scenarios of leaving home and having my own freedom. I wanted to be an adult so badly that I would feel envious when seeing adults making money and I would want to have my own money too.
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When I finished secondary school, I wanted to start working so I could earn money on my own and see how it feels to work for your money. I wanted to go places spending my own money.
When I see adults putting on beautiful clothes and shoes, making hair, I also would feel like growing up quickly to wear nice clothes and shoes.
It even started when I finished school and before then, I have been sending money home to my siblings and father. My sister would remind me I have a lot to do now because there are responsibilities for me.
No, I am not ready Sis. Continue doing it while I spend and take care of myself.... I would say to her but she would laugh because she knows I am now at that stage where I would need to hustle and help others.
I have explained the good part of being an adult while the bad one???
Being an adult means a lot of work and hustling to make money, especially giving to your siblings and family.
Adult life means a huge responsibility has arrived and they expect to see you catering for the family.
Adult life means even though you have your life to live, you aren't alone anymore because you are going to be thinking about your future, status, goals, aspirations, dreams, building your own family, taking care of your children and husband, having your own work or business etc.
It's as if I should go back to being a child so I don't have to start thinking about many problems and looking for solutions.
You can't escape from it ....
As you grow, adult life starts, then responsibility, I mean responsibilities are knocking every day.
So, get prepared and enjoy being an adult while it comes with some tough times. 😂😂😂
This post was inspired by @starstrings01 and @hopestylist after reading their posts about their adult life.