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You WILL drink the beer asshole 🍻

I'm sure we all have those friends (maybe they are just acquaintances) who you only see at the ol' watering hole. You know, the ones who message you for the first time in weeks or months and tell you they're having a party or whatever.

I live above a bunch of breweries now and I can easily look outside and see all of the people gathering to share a beer. A lot of them seem to be having fun, but I have seen so many people out of their minds acting foolish. Screaming at the top of their lungs, stumbling around, getting in fights, etc. I'm never down there with them despite my easy access. I have literally zero desire to be drinking or getting anywhere near drunkenness. This was not always the case.

If you haven't already read it, my blog about my past struggles with alcohol is eye-opening. I made so many huge mistakes during my heavy drinking phase. Some stuff that I will never be able to undo and am forced to live with forever. There were some good times, but a lot more bad times during that period of my life.

My thirst for alcohol began initially because I felt it made me better in social interactions. The problem is that I was so young still and my personality hadn't even been given the chance to develop yet. In the past, I also made a video about how I got over my social anxiety. Now I can be the most social person at any gathering and I have zero temptation to be drowning myself in booze.

Now I understand that not all people have problems with drinking and are able to control their consumption. Then I must remind you that even a little bit of alcohol increases the rate of deterioration, not only for your body but also for your mind. If your goal is to preserve yourself and live to your greatest potential until the day that you die, then you should never be drinking alcohol. It's a fool's temptation.

It's a shame that I notice so often that people drink religiously and think that is the reason they are enjoying some things in their life. When in reality they could get equal or greater enjoyment out of those same moments if they were stone-cold sober. Even better, you will actually have a chance to remember every single moment from those times because your brain won't be fogged up by the poison of alcohol.

You may read this and think that I may be trying to suggest that we bring back prohibition. Quite the opposite actually. When something becomes illegal, it makes a lot more people wish to do it than if it were legal. The taboo of obtaining alcohol during a time period where it is forbidden is a rush for many types of people. I want to make it very clear that I think we should all have the choice of whether or not we guzzle alcohol. The thing is, I think we need to be better at making smart choices.

Now that I'm back on the dating scene, I'm always hesitant to get excited about a girl who wants to "meet for some drinks" the first time we go out on a date. Right away I know we have something that we share totally opposite opinions on. From that point, it will be much harder to make other things work in the relationship. Sometimes I will still go out on that date for drinks and have no more than one or two. If I notice that girl is drinking at the same rate that I am, then there is still some hope. If she is drinking twice as much as me and doesn't seem to know when to call it quits, then I know 100% that I will never see that girl again.

When you have an alcohol problem, that is one thing. Hopefully, you can be like me and clean up your act. After that point, it becomes a lot easier to notice when others have an issue with drinking too much. Even if they aren't drinking in large amounts, consistent drinking is a sign that there is some healing that needs to be done. It's up to you if you wish to help the person or instead distance yourself to protect your own mental health.

I know not everyone will agree with my opinion on this and I'm guessing those who don't probably drink often. They will have many stories to prove that what they are doing is okay. Cool, that's great. I'm happy for you that you are having fun in life. Might I suggest that you find a healthier way to have an equal amount of fun, because there are so many things in this world that can make you happy? Happiness doesn't need to be accompanied by an elixir of darkness.

If you are any bit interested in etymology, then you can see right away that alcohol has some very dark roots. If you care to ponder it, you may wonder why words such as spirits are used to describe alcohol. Take gin for example. In some cultures, Jinn is thought to be an intelligent spirit of lower rank than the angels, able to appear in human and animal forms and to possess humans. Now I'm not religious, but I can tell you that getting drunk on gin will totally change you and make you seem as if you are possessed. I think all of this goes much deeper than any of us will ever be willing to investigate.

To end this rant, I want to encourage you to find a way to be happy with yourself in your normal state of being. Once you get to that point, things like alcohol and drugs will become a lot less appealing. You will feel as if you are removing a part of your soul when using them rather than boosting the greatness of your life.

Feel free to share your opinion on this topic in the comments.