Don't you think that most of the problems we encounter in our relationships (family, friends, workplace etc) stem from our way of communication? And you would realise that we find it difficult stating a FACT or observing without evaluating people's behaviours, resulting to some challenges in our relationships. For instance,
Is it true that your ward is a lazy student OR you have seen him studies whilst lying on his bed?
Is it true that you always gets mad at her OR you raised your voice at her in four occasions this month?
Is it true that you never give your wife a gift OR you have not bought for your wife some clothes for three month now?
Is it true that your wife no longer takes care of your room OR you have not seen her swept the room for two days now?
I can go on and on and on........ Once you don't state the fact, the listener is likely to hear criticism and may react with negative feedback, leading to violence that might affect your relationship.