There is a saying in my locality that goes, “What we are not thinking about should not hinder what we are thinking about.” In other words, problems or crises that could jeopardise our plans for the future should always be prayed against. Life is full of mysteries, and no one can completely alter it. Things are happening around us that we cannot explain, why they happen or how they happen. They just happen.
Some people call it destiny, while others call it a coincidence. Indeed, some situations occur simply because someone is caught in the web of circumstances. When such events keep happening, people often label them as destiny. Destiny is what people describe as something that is bound to happen to someone.
It is also important to understand that people experience pain differently, and everyone has their own struggles. Life is not a bed of roses; it is more or less like a box of chocolates, you can never be certain of what you will pick.
We all face life’s difficulties differently and approach pain in our own ways. This is human nature, largely influenced by our experiences and encounters in life.
Yesterday, I received an emergency call that my husband’s brother is going through pain and depression. It is something he has suffered from due to a prolonged period of silence while dealing with life’s challenges. He failed woefully in school and even refused to retake some courses. He underwent therapy, which cost over 600k a couple of years ago, and he started taking medication prescribed by the doctor.
However, his father, being a pastor, insisted that nothing was wrong with his son because he is a person of faith. It was only yesterday that we heard he had returned to therapy, as he had stopped taking his medication. He was also unable to graduate again last year, despite the fact that he ought to have graduated a year earlier.
It is just what it is. Now, he needs 400k as a deposit for therapy.
Life truly feels unbalanced at times because we cannot predict what is likely to happen. When people are not going through pain, it may seem as though life is fair to them, as they may not feel the weight of suffering compared to those who are actually in pain.
Being deeply concerned, I called a close friend and shared what had happened, as we often do for each other. I was surprised when she told me that her brother’s wife is also going through difficulties. She has sickle cell (SS) and endured serious pregnancy complications. After much struggle, she gave birth, but she has been battling between life and death. I heard that they have contributed about a million naira to support her through the joint efforts of her family and husband.
When I heard this, I felt even more sober and began to see life from another dimension.
This is just to remind us that life is truly not ours. We are merely sojourners here, existing temporarily.
