We always think about what others think of us,but do we ever think about ourselves?
Self-obsession means being excessively focused on yourself — your looks, thoughts, feelings, achievements, or problems — to the point that you ignore or care less about others.
A self-obsessed person constantly seeks attention and admiration, believing they are more important than everyone else. Though caring for oneself is good, too much self-focus can become unhealthy. It often leads to arrogance, loneliness, and a lack of empathy. True confidence comes from self-love and self-awareness, not from obsession. To live a balanced and peaceful life, we should learn to value ourselves while also respecting and caring for others.
People keep thinking about what others will say or think, and while doing so, we end up destroying thousands of our own dreams, joys, and wishes. We just keep worrying about others’ opinions.
A person can easily hurt you with their words, and when the time comes for you to give them a reply or stand up for yourself, you hesitate — thinking, “If I say this, maybe they’ll feel bad.” But do we ever think about how much we’ve been hurt inside by tolerating all of this?
As a girl, I’ve often had to hear things like: “Eww, you’re dark,” “Your eyes aren’t beautiful,” “Your hair isn’t nice,” “You’re too skinny,” and so on. But why should we have to listen to such things? Are the people who say these things to us perfect themselves?
The truth is, no one in this world is perfect. The Creator doesn’t send anyone to this world without some flaws — He does it to test us and to see how we accept and love ourselves despite those imperfections.
People — especially we girls — have to struggle a lot to survive in life. If a girl is fat, it’s a problem; if she’s thin, that’s also a problem. If she’s dark, it’s a problem; and even if she’s fair, that too becomes a problem. There are endless issues we girls have to face. And you know what’s even sadder? Sometimes, we girls ourselves become jealous of other girls.
Self-obsession is actually very important for us. No matter how we look on the outside, if our hearts are beautiful, then everything around us will seem beautiful too. If we love ourselves, we’ll be able to love everything in this world. When we take care of something, it becomes beautiful — so we should also take care of ourselves and love who we are.
There will always be people behind us who talk badly about us — people who have nothing better to do than criticize others. But if we ignore them and focus on loving ourselves, then everything in this world will appear beautiful to us.
So, we shouldn’t waste our time thinking about what someone said or did. We just need to remember one thing: “I am beautiful, and everything in this world is beautiful.” There’s a saying — “If you are good, the world feels good.”
We need to become so confident, so self-obsessed, that when we stand in front of the mirror, we can look at ourselves and say, “Wow! Gorgeous!”
Because truly, you are a gorgeous lady. You are beautiful, you are pure.🤍
