Pivotal Phase

I have made many wrong choices in life, and everyone has; it's always more mistakes compared to being right. For me, there have been some absolute disasters though, simply because I chose the emotional path, instead of doing what's right; doing what's right for me, my people, and our future. However, with every wrong decision, I learned a lesson, and as time passed by I learned to distinguish between the good choices and the bad; choices where taking the emotional path will only bring chaos and disorder.

Yet, I do have certain weaknesses. Weaknesses that lead me towards taking the emotional choice every now and then. These choices most of the time are small, and from a logical point of view still seem to be the wrong choice. To me, however, and considering the type of human being I am, and how empathetic I am, sometimes I make this so-called "wrong choice" because it may not benefit me, but it is done for the welfare of a loved one or someone that I simply care about.

Now, is that empathy or stupidity, I don't know. But, does it feel and seem right? Yes, it does!

"Life is simple, you make choices and you don't look back" - Han

Now, during my younger days, I could take an emotional chance and choice. I could be a bit juvenile, and not have to worry about the repercussions. Now, as I'm pushing 30, married, with a lot of family responsibilities on my shoulders, I must tread ahead with caution.

I have to distinguish what's truly the right thing to do in my present so that my future is better because that will affect my family's future and well-being too. I also have to make sure that I'm not going out of my way too often, just to please others. Because in return it may inhibit my own tasks and responsibilities; which may hinder my future, and the progress I've made in life.

There's a limit to giving and looking out for people. You give too much, and you'll have nothing left for yourself. And as you give, make sure that you get the same effort and aid in return, when you're in need.

Because...

"The taker never gets tired of taking, but the giver gets tired of giving."

And giving is a dangerous game. Because once you've given too much, and have received nothing in return, the damage taken can be immense; taking you to a point of no return.

So, when you're at a pivotal phase, be a bit selfish, and think about your well-being, and also those who rely on and depend on you.

I've always known what's right, at least for myself. It's when I've gone out of my way to make someone else either feel right or seem more knowledgeable, that's when I've successfully deceived myself, which later on led to my own demise. In life, at some point, sooner or later, you must take control of your own choices.

Because even if someone or something is there to guide you now, they won't be there forever...