I’ve been there and I’ve lived and trust me when our parents said we would grow up to learn they really didn’t lie. I for one have learnt so much in my life since entering into this adulthood phase of mine. It all happened like a flash because I expected everything to go smoothly for me but hey, life had its own plans. But then again, I’m glad for all that life has to offer. The experiences, the good and bad days and the days I’d live to remember and share with others in the future.
Of all the things I’ve learnt from others and those had to learn the hard way, the one thing I wish I learnt early would have to be the acting of caring less about what others thing or do. I grew up being the extra self conscious kind of person. The little things people do not notice, i notice and honestly this can be both good and bad depending on the situation.
Let me explain. This trait of mine has helped me so much when it comes to my work because i do have a keen eye for details and perfection and this has helped my work become better and better by the day. But personally, it will killing me. I was to self conscious I didn’t even know how to be myself anymore. I always wanted to do the right thing. Questions like what if this person gets mad at what I’ve done or what if it looks extra or cringe to others are the few questions that run in my mind everyday. With this mess in my head, I couldn’t live like myself anymore because I didn’t want to mess things up.
Life did get a lot better when I realized that most of the time I spent worrying about all these stuff, people didn’t even care about what I was doing. Apparently, everyone is busy checking on themselves and focusing on themselves to even notice you. So why not bask in your full self and live to the fullest. After this realization, my view of the world changed a lot and life got a lot lighter and brighter. They don’t teach us this in school or anywhere. You need to understand yourself and embrace yourself for who you are. It is only then that you can fully grasp the beauty of being yourself.
If I could go back in time and offer my younger self a piece of advice, I’d tell her to live to her fullest potential and live life like tomorrow didn’t exist because everyone was busy focusing on themselves.
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