When they don't ask you for your opinion ...

Learn to keep your opinion to yourself.

How easily we can say what we think about topics in which the other person did not ask us for our opinion, he does not care that we tell him anything and in fact he can fall quite badly.

We see a mother with a baby and we think about breastfeeding (without knowing the history of that person), someone with obesity (and we think we know the cure), even a person with cancer (and we dare to recommend any home remedy) ... We think that because we have lived something, or have an opinion we should share it with the world and the truth is that no, at least not if the other person did not ask to know it. That is, an interpretation, an opinion outside of what we think we know, is an aggression.

This is the case with many opinions, which we give out of context and without being requested. We do not realize that this way of proceeding is violent, especially because it does not take into account what the other may need.

It's different when someone asks us what we thought, or what our experience was. It's not that difficult, but very important.

The expert in giving an opinion when feeling exposed either raises his voice, or lies or is offended.

At the end of the day he's a mixture of a liar and a coward. Opinionators by trade, they are great manipulators, by the way, they feed on our attention. It is imperative to remove the focus from them, to get away from such immature beings.

No one prepares you for this, but a couple of years ago I had a boss who was a great manipulator in addition to being a pathological narcissistic person, he had erratic behaviors for being a lying, manipulative person. He always followed a pattern of behavior, until he was fired. Because the work coexistence was not easy at all. All people should learn to have and use filters before sharing an opinion.

There is a saying that says "quiet you look nicer and prettier".

People are often offended because we do not ask for their opinion or advice in situations that are of a personal nature.

These types of people are able to question us because they believe that our life is a chessboard where only they, the great opinionating manipulators, only they can execute a move.

It's over, but I don't know if it meets...

It also happens that what people want is for you to lend them your ear 😜, I've learned to let them talk, to listen actively selectively, it's very healthy, and if they ask me for my opinion, I can choose between giving it or not, but I just listen and keep silent.

Honestly...let's keep silent, especially if it is with people with whom we do not have any kind of trust.

Janitze 🦋