Hello everyone !
Do you tend, when you succeed in something, to emphasize it by saying "Look, I managed that"? Or do you prefer to minimize it by saying "Oh, it's not much"? What about pride and dignity in this context? Recently, I noticed something about this with a friend on social networks. She posted photos of herself by her pool, saying "Mon dieu que la vie est belle", while eating grapes. However, she also showed me the comments she received, one of which said, "Do you realize what you're putting out there? Have you thought about those who can't afford a swimming pool, who live in an apartment, in thirty square meters?" This remark made her so uncomfortable that she ended up deleting her post. She then asked me the question: is it fair, when you achieve something, whether materially or spiritually, to put it forward? This question really got me thinking, and that's why I wanted to share it with you.
Does the joy of living in a beautiful home compel us to share it? We might ask ourselves whether it's right to show it off when others live in more modest conditions. And if I'm happily married, is it inappropriate to share photos with my partner? Is it indecent to show my children, happy, healthy and full of joy, to those who can't have any or who have sick children? And if I take the time to prepare a delicious dish after hours in the kitchen, is it indecent to share it on social networks while others settle for a simple sandwich at a freeway service station?
These questions raise the dilemma of how to share our happiness and successes while respecting the different sensibilities and realities of others.
It's a legitimate concern, since many people feel a kind of guilt in expressing their fulfillment, fearing that it might harm others by creating jealousy or exacerbating the suffering of the world.
For me, this reticence can be understood differently. Rather than seeing the affirmation of our happiness as indecent, I believe it invites us to examine our deeper intentions. When we share our happiness, whether it's a beautiful house, a mountain peak, delicious caramel tiramisu, or children playing happily, the key lies in our intention.
Is our aim to arouse envy or provoke comparison with others? Or are we simply looking to share moments of joy and beauty, to inspire others and contribute positively to their day?
For me, sharing our positive experiences can be an authentic way of celebrating life and spreading positive emotions around us. It can encourage others to find their own happiness and appreciate the small beauties of everyday life.
Rather than seeing the affirmation of our happiness as indecent, I think it's important to reflect on our motivations and the impact our actions can have. When we share our happiness with sincerity and kindness, it can help create a positive and inspiring atmosphere for everyone.
I sometimes ask myself, am I really proud of what I've achieved? Do I deserve to feel worthy? We've all been conditioned to believe that emphasizing our qualities and personal success is synonymous with arrogance and vanity. This often leads us to suppress our own light, not daring to shine fully.
Recently, I witnessed a touching scene on a small soccer pitch. Two young boys were playing: one was keeping goal and the other was scoring goals. The goalkeeper was so concentrated that he managed to stop all his brother's shots. Instead of taking pride in saying something like 'I'm the best goalkeeper in the world', he humbly said that his brother couldn't score a goal. His grandmother, present next to the pitch, observed the scene and kindly advised him to remain humble.
However, this simple remark had a profound impact on the child. It shook his self-confidence and self-esteem. And just after a moment, when he could have stopped the next goal, he let it go. His inner light dimmed, his power faded.
I believe that the greatest contribution we can make to humanity is to celebrate our own beauty. And perhaps our greatest modesty lies precisely in our ability to share our own light with the world.
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