Okay, I know I’m supposed to be all "Merry Christmas" this week, but I heard something today that I think I would like to share. So I was at the salon today, and as usual there was this free therapy session ongoing. I can’t explain, but it’s a girls' thing where you can share your experience or something you are going through and receive encouragement or advice.
Most people say they hate sharing their stuff at the salon because of the kind of things they hear. Well, I feel fortunate enough to not experience any of that at where I get my hair done. So it started with a lady requesting water for her medication. She said she had a cold, and it was severe.
After looking at her, I realized her eyes were puffy like she had been crying. So I looked at her for a while, and then she began crying again. At that moment, we all went silent to allow her to let it all out. I didn’t really know why she was crying, and I was hoping that it wasn’t what I was thinking, but unfortunately, it was.
According to her, her partner, who she got engaged to, or let me just say fiancé, was not really spending time with her. From all that she said, it sounded like the man is a busy man, but in the past few weeks, he’s been off from work. But not spending time with her. Anytime she calls him, he’s either at some event with someone or doing something with another person.
And she feels like she’s losing him, which I totally understand because I believe anyone who likes you would definitely want to spend time with you at least once a week. I stand to be corrected, though.
Anyway, I felt her pain because it’s not her boyfriend or sneaky link, but her fiancé. This is someone she’s engaged to, so it’s definitely going to hurt, but on the other side, I feel like she’s about to dodge a bullet. A big one.
How can we be engaged and then you wouldn’t want to spend time with me especially on your off days? How? I think it’s definitely a red flag. It will be painful, but she just has to walk away because she deserves better. I think the part that is driving her crazy is where the guy is actually ignoring her. To me, this automatically means the engagement has been called off.
One thing I think we should leave in 2025 is not communicating. The least thing a human being can do is to communicate. Come on, it’s not that hard. “You did this so I don’t like this”. “This and that and this” It’s really not hard. Also, when you communicate, do it well, don’t gaslight. Leaving gaslighting in 2025 and build a better version of yourself that accepts responsibility and is accountability as well.
Let’s just prioritize people’s mental health and do what we have to do; communicate. Because it’s really not nice to leave people questioning themselves.
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